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The Reason of Love Important

“If you have it, you don’t need to have anything else, and if you don’t have it, it doesn’t much matter what else you have.”

Love is the foremost feeling that rules the world. It takes various forms and serves various purposes. Love is one of the most magnanimous emotions and the reason for many other emotions that breeds from it. What differentiates love from everything else is that it is experienced by all living beings on Planet Earth. Right from plants to animals, to human beings, love is experienced by one and all. Every relationship that exists in the world has love in its ubiquitous form. In times of hardship and adversity, love prevails and helps a person come over it with poise and grace. Love has taken various forms in the life of a person—a tender touch by a mother, a helping hand by a father, a passionate kiss by a soul mate, an affectionate touch by a brother/sister and a compassionate support from a friend. This enigmatic emotion has the potential of changing lives completely. Thus, it can be rightly concluded that love is the most important ingredient of life. Without it, life is empty and with it, life vibrates with meaning and warmth. The following write-up elucidates the importance of love and its existence in the life and world.

Importance of Love

Generations After Generations If it were not for love, you would not have been in the world, forget about reading this article alone. For love is it that keeps the species going, generations after generations. If your grand parents were not in love, your parents would not be in the world and if your parents were not in love, you would not have been in this world. The circle of life and death has continued since ages which explain the generations after generations that have continued to live in this world. Agreed, babies can be conceived without love as well. It is sex that produces a baby, but sex does not nurture it. Love helps nurture a baby and guarantees its well-being and survival.

Well-being of Humans Studies have even proved it – if it were not for love, people would have been sick not only physically but mentally and emotionally as well. Children deprived of love tend to be depressed and develop cognitive, physiological and emotional impairment such as thinking difficulties, banging sensation in the head and demoralized sense of self. A great number of diseases and ailments are directly proportional to lack of love in a person’s life. When a person is stressed out, there is a certain change in the hormones in blood which weaken the immune system. Early age heart attacks and other debilitating illness are medical situations that arise due to lack of love.

To Love and Be Loved Why do you think people exist in the world? To love someone and be loved by someone is one of the most essential ingredients for human survival. Human survival is based on love and love alone, for nothing is supreme in the world than the feeling of love and affection. We are born out of love and throughout our life, maintain relationships of love, with parents, siblings, friends, elders, spouse, children and so on. And it is through these relationships, that we sustain a living. All through our life we work our way to love others and be loved by others.

Makes Life Worth Living If it were not for love, there wouldn’t have been self-esteem and no sense of self worth would mean no life at all. In day-to-day living, it is love that enhances the daily living and makes life pleasurable and beautiful. People who have never experienced love in their life are often seen to hold aggressive, hostile and emotional nature than those who have. Also, when love is there, a person can face any appalling situation (financially or emotionally or physiologically) and come out of it effectively. Mostly it is seen that when a person has the loving support of someone or his family, he/she can withstand any hazardous situation and emerge out as a winner.

Helps in Connecting With the Supreme Power If the world had been ruled by ‘haters’, and love weren’t in existence, then would it be possible for humans to have found eternal peace and enlightenment? Not at all, for love is the only emotion that helps in connecting with the Supreme Power! It is the love that the Almighty has for His children and we, as children have for the Almighty that has helped in the survival of mankind. Also, it is through the virtue of this emotion that we have been bestowed over with mercy and grace by the omnipotent and omnipresent Divinity.

Make A Shy Guy To Ask You Out Tips

So, you think you’ve met the kind of guy you’ve longed to be with, but nothing seems to work out between the two of you. Not that you guys have any differences between yourself, it is just the fact that he is too shy to ask you out for a date. Don’t crack your head for this simple problem, as you can work it out easily. Just because it is scary, nerve-racking or intimidating for him to ask you out does not mean that it could never happen. Guys mature into men in numerous ways and one of them is through their relationship with women. In such cases, it is the woman who plays a dominating role in directing a man to shed off his coyness and say his heart out. By doing little things, you will not only boost his self-confidence but also make him comfortable with you, with others and in unknown places. Also, once he gets in his skin, it would be normal for him to step out of his introvert zone and ask you out. In short, to make a sky guy ask you for date, it is you (and not he) who needs to take the effort. With the help of a few tips and ideas, get the ball rolling and in no time, you guys could be on the rocks!

How To Get A Shy Guy To Ask You Out

Dress Up Discretionally Before you make a move to shed off his shyness, look at yourself keenly at the mirror. Do you look approachable? Do you have a loud sense of dressing? Are your clothes decent enough or revealing? Whatever be the case, if you want a guy to approach you for a date, make sure that you look sociable and friendly, for initially, it is mostly the look that matters. A loud makeup coupled with a stringy outfit can send out bold signals, which might deter any guy, leave alone shy guys, from asking you out. As for the purity ring, make sure you wear it in the right finger so as to send correct signals to the person.

Amicable Body Language Body language conveys 80 percent of the conversation. So, even if you choose your words well before you speak, if your body language isn’t convincing enough, you might lose the opportunity to have your Mr. Shy to ask you out. Wondering as to what is body language? It is the way your body responds and reacts to situations, conversations and words. For example, sitting with your legs crossed over sends signals that you aren’t interested in a conversation, a plain face with no smile is also a turn off, no eye contact while talking is discouraging and sends ‘not-interested’ vibes to people. So, to make anyone come over to you with a proposal, make sure that your body language is correct.

Conversation Starters! Now that you have done your homework and are prepared to make that guy shed his introvert nature, it is time to be a conversation starter for him. Most of the times, it is the starting of the conversation that seems tough for a person who is shy. If your meetings are restricted to “hello” and “bye”, and you are waiting for him to get into the skin and initiate a conversation, know that the wait would be an eternal one. Instead, strike up small conversations with him such as talking about weather, news, a new movie released, favourite cuisine, college days and so on. Try the humor way as it might help the two of you to get to a good start.

Cues and Hints Shy men are nervous when amidst women, but the anxiety goes on to a far different level when it comes to talking to a woman they are interested in. Sometimes, the situation can be as worse as having half-coherent and incomprehensible answers from the person, while in a conversation, as he is so overwhelmed with the idea of talking to ‘the person’ (in this case, you) he is interested in. So, dropping in a hint or cue can help bring down his anxiety level so much so that he gets the nerve to ask you out. You need to understand that most shy people lack the confidence and courage to risk the embarrassment of rejection or a verbal confrontation. With you giving him a hint of your feelings can make him comfortable and who knows, he might even ask you formally for a date? Some ways you can go about are holding the eye contact for a second longer than necessary, tossing your hair over his shoulder, giving him that convincing smile and the like. So, go ahead and crack it up!

Sincerity Pays Sincerity always works. Only because he is an introvert and reserved guy, it doesn’t mean that you can fool around with him, play with him according to your whims and fancies and then leave him astray. This would do him more harm than good and who knows, he would never be able to shed his reclusive nature at all. Only if you are genuinely interested in him, work your way through him. Take care to get to know his hobbies and interests. Ask open ended questions about him and be a good listener when he answers. These little gestures would help you get to know him better. And when you have reached a stage where he gets comfortable with you, measure his feelings. Be sincere to him for pretence does not work!

How to Avoid Someone You Love

Your lover took you for granted, demeaned your self-esteem and cared a damn about how you felt—and you thought it was fine all this while. Wake up, and instil in yourself a splodge of self-worth, for no person in the world has the right to hurt you. If you can’t retort back or be as harsh as he/she was, at least ignore the person publicly to let him/her know that you are hurt and have your own way of striking it back. Ignorance is like a sweet poison—it harms or disturbs the person concerned ceaselessly, but not explicitly. Also, it gets the message across quite appropriately. If you have been attending to his/her slightest need or requirement, it is time to sit back and ignore the same. Your simple ignorance would cast a setback and have him/her wondering as to what went wrong. It is then that realization and consciousness will draw upon the person. So, whether it is your best friend, your lover or spouse, ignore the person to make him/her realise your worth and value. To help you in the same, we have provided below some tips and advices. Adhere to them and turn the tables for good!

How To Ignore Someone You Love

Being Formal! The next time you meet him/her, don’t behave as if you have known the person since ages, even if you have. Instead, be outright formal and reserved. Passing off a meeting or an accidental bump with an ‘excuse me’ said in a monotone voice can be the topmost way to go about with it. While the best would be to stop addressing the person at all, if, by chance, you are at a crux of a situation wherein there is no way but to talk to the person, address him/her as ‘you’ or ‘Mr/Ms (Surname)’. Don’t make use of the person’s name, come what may. When you get formal with the person, he/she would get the cue that you are ignoring him/her.

Curtailed Response! Have you noticed a conversation with an unknown person is limited to a few seconds or a minute at the max, a sharp contrast to conversation with those whom you love wherein it stretches for minutes and sometimes, even hours? If you want to ignore someone you love, the best would be to curtail the responses as much as restricting to a “hello”, “hmm” and “goodbye”. In fact, it would be great if you pretend not to hear him/her or say nothing at least 50 percent of the times. Your restricted responses are sure to make the other person feel dumb and keep him/her wondering about what went wrong. When this happens, be happy about it, for this was all that you wanted.

Via Communications! If the two of you are working together or have mutual friends, it is hardly possible to ignore bumping into each other. At such situations, how do you ignore a person? Agreed, you are abided by social obligations and have to face the person, but you can ignore him/her while being around too. Don’t communicate with him/her. Instead, gel up with your friends or colleagues and use them to convey a message directly or indirectly. Confused? Don’t be, for here is a small example to sort it out for you. Suppose you and your friends are at an eatery. You get up to place the order at the counter. Don’t ask the person directly as to what he/she wants to eat. Instead, ask your friends to do so. This way, you can ignore him/her while still being around. Use people around you to send messages.

Object Overlooked! Even if you have the eyes of a chameleon, a full 360 degree field of vision, rest them when that person is around. Don’t take us literally and close your eyes every time you chance upon him/her. Not only would you hit yourself, you would be written off as a stupid person. Instead, avoid an eye contact with the person. You can look around, watch others but when it comes to the person concerned, you overlook him/her. Turning a back won’t be a good idea as you would not be able to notice his/her reaction. Instead, have the person in your peripheral vision. This way, you will always be able to look at the person without him/her getting to know about it.